Relationships may be defined in different ways depending on who’s involved, but healthy relationships all depend on a few key elements: healthy communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, and support for one another. Check-in with each other’s needs regularly while also giving each other space and privacy, and be sure to keep an eye out for the warning signs of dating abuse.
Take the Love Is Respect healthy relationships quiz below to find out the status of your situation.
How healthy is my relationship?
A healthy partner encourages you to achieve your goals. They don’t resent your accomplishments or make you feel guilty for spending time with other people, and they aren’t excessively jealous. Ask yourself if:
- The relationship moves at a speed that feels enjoyable for each person.
- Confidence that your partner won’t do anything to hurt you or ruin the relationship.
- You can be truthful and candid without fearing how the other person will respond.
- You have space to be yourself outside of the relationship.
- You value one another’s beliefs and opinions, and love one another for who you are as a person.
- The relationship feels balanced and everyone puts the same effort into the success of the relationship.
- You are caring and empathetic to one another, and provide comfort and support.
- Owning your own actions and words.
- Openly and respectfully discussing issues and confronting disagreements non-judgmentally.
- You enjoy spending time together and bring out the best in each other.
When is a relationship unhealthy?
The line between unhealthy and abusive behavior isn’t always clear, but abusive actions should never be written off as “normal.” No matter the situation, everybody deserves to be in a healthy relationship free from violence, and you should always take it seriously if there’s violence in your relationship. Just because there’s no physical abuse in your relationship doesn’t mean that it’s healthy or that abuse isn’t occurring in other forms. If you are seeing unhealthy signs in your
relationship, it’s important to not ignore them and understand they can escalate to abuse.
- When someone expresses very extreme feelings and over-the top behavior that feels overwhelming.
- When someone is jealous to a point where they try to control who you spend time with and what you do.
- When someone tries to control your decisions, actions or emotions.
- When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people.
- When someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success.
- When someone does and says things to make you feel bad about yourself.
- When someone makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy.
- When someone has a really strong, unpredictable reaction that makes you feel scared, confused or intimidated.
- When someone repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.
- When someone is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way.
HPU is a community that embraces and stands for safe, healthy relationships. HPU prohibits domestic violence and dating violence as defined in the Student Guide to Campus Life. As a student, you have a right to expect that you will be treated with respect in your relationships within the HPU community. The HPU community wants to take every opportunity to educate our community regarding preventive measures regarding domestic and dating violence. If you or someone you know a student may be a victim of dating/domestic violence, you may report such misconduct or file a formal complaint with the Title IX Coordinator. If there is an emergency, please call 911 or campus security at 336-841-9111.
If you would like to report an incident of sexual assault, sexual misconduct, intimate partner violence (dating violence & domestic violence), stalking, non-consensual sexual contact, or sexual harassment please complete this form or contact the Title IX Coordinator.
Title IX Coordinator
Kayla Rudisel, JD
Title IX Coordinator
317 Slane Student Center
High Point University
One University Parkway High Point, NC 27268
Campus Resources: A little help can go a long way.
Off-Campus Resources: Additional resources are available to you.
Identifying Abuse: Recognizing abuse is the first step.
Relationship abuse is all about power and control. While you may be unwilling or unable to leave your relationship right now, it’s important to remember that abusive partners are unlikely to change their behavior. Your first priority should always be your personal safety and your safety in the future.
Dating 101: Is my relationship healthy? Information and quiz.
Relationships exist on a spectrum and it can sometimes be hard to tell when behavior goes from healthy to unhealthy (or even abusive).
Safety Planning: Your safety is our first priority. You deserve a future without fear.
A safety plan is a personalized, practical plan to improve your safety while experiencing abuse, preparing to leave an abusive situation, or after you leave. This plan includes vital information tailored to your unique situation and will help you prepare for and respond to different scenarios, including telling your friends and family about your situation, coping with emotions, and various resources suited to your individual circumstance
Ways to Support Those Affected: Helping the people in our lives.
Dating abuse is difficult for everyone involved, including people who attempt to offer support. Those who haven’t dealt with dating abuse before sometimes wonder why survivors don’t just leave their partner, not realizing that ending an abusive relationship is far more complicated than other break-ups (which can be challenging in their own right).
Love is Respect is the national resource to disrupt and prevent unhealthy relationships and intimate partner violence by empowering young people through inclusive and equitable education, support, and resources.
One Love: One Love educates young people about healthy and unhealthy relationships, empowering them to identify and avoid abuse and learn how to love better.
ANSWER: 11 Signs of a Healthy Relationship