Sexual and dating abuse affects all people and relationships. It doesn’t discriminate! Dating abuse is just as serious in LGBTQIA+ relationships as it is in heterosexual relationships. Less than 25% of those who experience dating violence in the LGBTQ+ community ever report the abuse. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Projects (NCAVP) estimates that nearly one in ten LGBTQ survivors of intimate partner violence (IPV) has experienced sexual assault from those partners.
Individuals experiencing dating abuse in LGBTQ+ relationships may:
- Feel embarrassed about the abuse going on.
- Feel like their partner will try to turn the community against them if they do something their partner disagrees with or if they decide to end the relationship.
- Be worried their partner will “out” them to family and friends if they’re not out already or their partner may threaten to “out” them as a way to gain power and control over them.
- Be in their first LGBTQ+ relationship and their partner may be isolating them from the rest of the queer community as a form of power and control.
- Be made to feel ashamed about their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression by their partner.
- Feel like their partner is the only person that will ever love them because of their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression.
- Be worried that they won’t be able to get help because of their sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression if they reach out.
Everyone deserves a healthy relationship where they are treated with respect and valued for who they are.
However unique the challenge, if you or someone you know is experiencing dating violence in a LGBTQAI+ relationship, remember, you are not alone! You have the right to reach out when you are in need of help.
Here are some LGBTQ-friendly resources:
HPU staff and faculty, including Kayla Rudisel, Title IX Coordinator
317 Slane Center
High Point University
One University Parkway
High Point, NC 27268
National Sexual Assault Hotline – can also refer you to a local rape crisis center
1-800-656-HOPE (4673) 24/7 or
Online Counseling at https://ohl.rainn.org/online/
Love is Respect Hotline
1-866-331-99474 (24/7) or Text “loveis” 22522
LGBT National Help Center
National Hotline (1-888-843-4564) or National Youth Talkline (1-800-246-7743)
Online Peer Support Chat (https://www.glbthotline.org/peer-chat.html) or Weekly Youth Chatrooms (https://www.glbthotline.org/youthchatrooms.html)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Text LOVEIS to 22522
Love is Respect
Human Rights Campaign